Now the problem lies in the fact he has extreme seperation anxiety - or is super clingy, either way all was going great until it came time to move him up from Water babies class to Tadpoles - only difference being that Mummy no longer gets in the water but sits at the side - cue Miles's horrendous screaming "Mummy, Mummy, Muummmmmmmmmmmmy" for the ENTIRE 30 minute class! Oh my God its been a battle, we have been back into water babies for a few months after it just got too hard hearing the screaming and totally lost for an answer to help him adjust having me sitting at the side of the pool with my feet dangling in and holding his hand - although he usually stands there clinging onto my leg saying mummy Mummy over and over and over for 30 mintues solid - anyway i couldnt stand it any longer and took him back into waterbabies where i get in the water with him. Did that for another 3 months till he turned 3yrs old then tried him again in the Tadpoles, this time i made sure he had the instructor he had had all the time in Water babies, as he tends to cling to familar people and isnt good with strangers - well he is fine with strangers if mummy is there but not if mummy is sitting 10cms away or so.. yes that close bit still a million miles away to Miles!
Anyway he started back in Tadpoles in August when he turned 3 and 3 months, for the first time today he only screamed for the first 6 or 7 minutes of the class - oh i could have cried with joy! He had the biggest grin on his face and was loving it. Which is so frustrating as i know he loves to swim and loves all the songs and activities they do in the pool as well as the actual learing to swim its just because of his seperation issues. So it was jsut pure joy to see him so happy and having fun. I was at there with this stupid grin on my face for 3o minutes! but i was so pleased for him.
He joined in for most of the things but a few of the activities - it was only the 3 of them, Teacher, Miles and another little girl - they went to sing ring-a-rosies and he wouldnt join in so the teacher and little girl did it and Miles just stood to the side and watched - which kills me as i can see on his face he is just dying to join in but its like something is stopping him, which is the same as me as i child i would be the one standing on the corner of a room looking at the groud while all the kids played and i longed to join in but just 'couldn't' I just feel so bad that i've passed that awful gene or whatever it is onto my poor baby.. id give anything to make him feel comfortable to join in.
Anyway, major success with swimming so thats fantastic.
Then we went to the Wiggles Playcentre with a neighbour and her little boy and another friend and her 2 little girls. All the kids were playing in the paly area together and the mums were chatting over a coffee - something ive never been able to do as Miles wont go off and play by himself or with his friends so off i go into the play centre to stand there looking like a right prat with all these little kids running around playing and Miles playing too - he will happily play just as long as im only a short distance away . Anyway one of the mums asked if she could hold Greta while i stood with Miles in the play area, as i was trying to juggle playing with miles and cary Greta as there was no where to put her down - but of course Greta very much like her big brother wont let anyone other than mummy and sometimes daddy hold her and went hysterical - shaking violently and screaming 'Mama, Mama" hmm this sounds all too familiar!
So im standing there in the paly area surounded by kids holding Greta!
But then to my utter shock, Miles followed one of his friends up to the top of a ladder and then of course realised that Mummy is down on the ground and not at the side of him so started screaming Mummy Mummy... oh great so i now had to climb up there to get him with Greta either in my arms or put her on the floor wehre she'd scream and shake! ARGGHHHH .. well i managed to talk him back down the ladder so all good.
Then Dorothy the dinosaur came out and Miles threw himself at her and gave her the biggest cuddle it was so cute!
Picture below - Miles, Lauren & Caitlin
We will go back there again soon it was fantastic - i can't believe its only half an hour away and i havent been more.
So a pretty good day all in all. I have an interview for a job for a couple of hours - will no doubt be back to report on that.
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